Many people wonder how to deal with jealousy. For some people, jealousy is a deal breaker. A woman or man who makes you so jealous you can't see straight might not seem worth the effort. You also might like to make them jealous, but you don't enjoy their reactions to it sometimes. There are 3 steps in how to deal with jealousy that can help you if you have problems with this in your relationship.
First of all, don't let the jealousy get to you. While this is easier said than done, there are ways to work on the problem. If your partner is someone whom you don't really trust, then your jealousy might be justified. In that case, may you should really examine why you don't trust that person.
Has that person cheated on you before? Do you just suspect it or do you have facts and know for sure that he or she cheated? If you don't know that it happened, why do you suspect? You might be surprised that you really have no valid reason not to trust your partner.
If you don't have reason not to trust them, then why don't you? Is it some sort of guilty conscience? Do you imagine if you were them that you would cheat? If you don't have good reason not to trust them, you need to work on fostering that trust.
If you have reason not to trust that person, then you should examine why you're with them when you can't trust them. If they cheated and you've taken them back, then it's necessary for you to start rebuilding trust. To be with someone that you fear may cheat at any moment isn't a healthy relationship for either of you.
If you've been trying to trust them for a long time and can't, maybe this isn't the relationship for you. But either way, whether you have reason or not, how to deal with jealousy is essentially the same.
If they flirt when around other people but you have no reason to believe that they're cheating now, why should you be jealous?
Jealousy should only really be a response to a threat. And if that person can flirt with someone and then cheat on you with that person, then that goes beyond jealousy into betrayal.
The second way how to deal with jealousy is to realize that the person you're with may flirt all they want. Look at flirting as just a natural response to people they find attractive. And after all that flirting, they choose to be with you. Instead of being jealous, you could actual let yourself be flattered by that.
A third way to deal with jealousy is to let a little bit of jealousy add a spark to your relationship. If jealousy doesn't get out of hand, there are many women and men who enjoy a partner who isn't afraid to show a little possessiveness.
This is how to deal with jealousy when it doesn't make either of you angry, but makes you more determined to keep your partner happy.
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