1.Let her know your available
You have probably heard the advice that if you want to know how to get your ex girlfriend back,the quickest way is to make her jealous by making her think you're going out with other girls. Well, the problem is this can easily backfire on you. Even if she was starting to miss you, if she finds out yu have started dating, she will assume you no longer have feelings for her.
2.Improve yourself
Instead of spending your energy looking for a new girlfriend, invest it in self-improvement. Especially if you were in a long-term relationship, you will be better off taking some time to yourself to do something that will improve your confidence as an individual, whether it's learning a new skill or just spending more time doing what you love. Your ex will see you can live without her and respect you all the more for it.
3.Write a love letter
Not a phone call, not an email, not an instant message an actual handwritten letter. It may be an old fashioned method for how to get your ex girlfriend back,but it works because there are very few women who wont open a handwritten letter.
That means you will at least get a chance to explain what you're feeling.
While it is best to put everything in your own words, if you really feel like you don't know what to say, get a female friend to help you or swipe a few ideas (ideas, not whole sentences) from examples online.
Remember, the look of the letter is nearly as important as the words. Write your letter on fancy stationary, stick it in a matching envelope, seal it with real sealing wax and send it off.
4.Keep it light
When you do get a chance to talk to her again, keep the mood upbeat.Don't start apologizing for everything you ever did wrong, begging her to meet with you, or arguing over what caused the breakup.
After all, would you look forward to meeting someone who is obviously an emotional wreck?
Instead, give her an indication that seeing you again will be fun and won't involve any bickering or groveling. If at all possible, make her laugh. You'll get her to let her guard down and take away the bad taste from the break up.
Make use of mutual friends to let her know your're available but not wasting away from grief, then send her a letter to make contact again.
Beyond that, be careful where get advice on how to get your girlfriend back because some of them can really backfire on you.
really hoping and praying this will work.
ReplyDeleteIn the past I all the time wrote letters to avoid emotional conflicts,but they had negative/windging/blaming tones. Also I did not read articles or books. I did not do 2, Improve yourself (give space)or 3. Keep it light. I did the opposite due to my emotional wreck. I sometimes wonder if outcomes might have been different if I had acted differently.
ReplyDeleteIT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE. I hope you find peace whatever develops in the future.
Disclaimer: I am not an so-called expert/guru.
Thank you, I had gotten into a serious wreck the day we broke up and she saw it all. I think she believes it was a suicide attempt so she completely shut me out. She wont talk to me, or listen to reason or anything. And it sucks because i seriously loved this girl. Im gonna let her calm down a little and try all this in order.
ReplyDeleteLong time ago Out of the Blue my ex-grlfriend broke up with me. I asked her to post me back her Plate!! We went to a restaurant and She really liked plates with pink heart in the center. Love is blind and I asked the manager if I could buy two. I do not remember I got them free or for a dollar each. My friend was strongly againt my action,BUT I acted purely on emotions. I never asked her to return a blue saphire ring which I gave her before as a present. I do not remember the price,maybe a hudred dollars. Emotions with lovely memory at the restaurant mattered not the cost of the ring. I asked her to return $1 plate not $100 ring as I could not stand the thought of my symbol of love with nice memory staying in her home after break up. She was really unimpressed and things got worse. I still regret this. Impulsive Actions based on emotions just after break up is a killer!! I hope this half sweet( get plates from a restaurant)and half bitter story might cheer you up a bit. At least you can laugh at the plate story. IT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE. I hope you find peace.
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